Is Therapy with Me the Right Fit for You?
- Becky
- Mar 28
- 3 min read
Updated: 7 days ago
Finding a therapist who truly gets you matters.
Therapy can be a powerful space for growth, healing, and transformation—but it’s most effective when both client and therapist feel aligned, safe, and able to work together with mutual understanding.
This guide is here to help you get a sense of whether we might be the right fit for one another. My practice is grounded in trauma-informed, compassionate care—with a special focus on eating disorders, neurodivergence, and complex trauma.
Clients Who Tend to Thrive in Therapy with Me
Over the years, I’ve found that certain qualities really support the therapy process. You don’t have to tick every box perfectly—therapy is a place for growth, not perfection—but if the following feels familiar, we may work well together:
✔️ You’re open to gentle challenge
You're willing to explore your beliefs, even the ones that feel entrenched. You understand that growth can sometimes feel uncomfortable, but you're open to the process.
✔️ You reflect on your inner world
You’re curious about how your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours connect. You’re learning to take ownership of your healing, even when it’s hard.
✔️ You have realistic expectations
You know therapy isn’t a quick fix. You’re okay with going at your own pace, and you’re open to doing some work between sessions.
✔️ You value respectful boundaries
You understand that clear and kind boundaries help keep therapy safe for both of us. You don’t need constant access between sessions and are comfortable with the natural rhythm of therapeutic work.
✔️ You’re proactive in your healing
You’re willing to try new strategies and make small, meaningful changes. You see therapy as something we do together—not something that’s done to you.
✔️ You can sit with uncertainty
Life isn’t linear, and neither is healing. You’re learning to stay present through the ups and downs, even when things feel tough.
When Therapy with Me Might Not Be the Best Fit
Everyone deserves the right support—but not every therapist is the right match for every person. If some of the following resonate more strongly, it may be worth exploring different options or discussing ways we could adapt the work:
❌ You find it hard to consider different perspectives
If rigid thinking or black-and-white patterns dominate and feel very difficult to shift, therapy may feel frustrating at times. This is common with restrictive eating and neurodivergence, and something we can absolutely talk about together to see what adjustments might help.
❌ You need constant reassurance
If you find it hard to tolerate uncertainty and need regular external validation to feel safe, we may need to think carefully about the kind of support you need. Private therapy is more bounded than crisis-based support.
❌ You avoid deeper emotional work
It’s absolutely okay to feel afraid or uncertain about big feelings. But if avoidance becomes the default, it might make therapy feel stuck or disconnected.
❌ You’re hoping for quick fixes
I won’t give you a list of things to ‘fix’ yourself—but I will walk alongside you in understanding yourself more deeply and supporting meaningful change over time.
❌ You feel powerless to change
If you believe nothing can shift and feel unable or unwilling to explore any sense of agency, therapy might feel disempowering rather than supportive right now.
❌ Boundaries feel difficult to tolerate
If you need a high level of access outside sessions or struggle with session consistency, we may need to consider whether this kind of outpatient support is the right level for you.
❌ Your inner critic dominates every session
If self-criticism is so overwhelming that it’s hard to stay present or accept any progress, we’ll need to go gently. This doesn’t mean you’re not ready—but it might mean our focus will be on stabilisation and self-compassion first.
The Importance of a Good Therapeutic Fit
Finding the right therapist is a deeply personal and sometimes emotional process—especially when you've had difficult or invalidating experiences in the past. If you're neurodivergent, living with an eating disorder, or navigating trauma, you deserve a therapist who gets the nuance of your experience.
If the values I’ve shared here resonate with you, I’d love to explore working together. If you’re not sure yet, that’s okay too—we can start with a no-pressure conversation.
Next Steps: Let’s Talk
If you're considering therapy and wondering whether I might be the right therapist for you:
Or drop me an email with any questions at hello@beckygracetherapy.co.uk
This space is here for you—at your pace, with no pressure.
Warmly
Becky Grace
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